Traumas and Meaningful Life: How Hardships Help to be Successful in Future Life

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Last Updated on May 9, 2021 by

Some Words In Support Of Traumas

Post-traumatic growth is actually Hardships have meanings only if we understand them. We bear hardships only if they have importance in our life. Troubles, as well as post-traumatic growth, can create a better way to understand our potential and what we can do to our extent. There can be a life without hardships but without meanings. So, if we want to create sense into our life, we may go and bear hardships firmly with the hope of a better future with minimum difficulties. 

Do you know why our parents struggle or struggled because they wanted us to be safe from hardships? Do you know why a teacher comes prepared in the class because they do not want to work during the lecture? The same is the case with every master, every coach, every sportsman, and every leader.

So, we can say that we face hardships every day at every stage of life without knowing that these are hardships? Because we take steps to avoid them shortly. If we do not, these little struggles may convert into problems in the future. So, do we need to find meanings within hardships? Why is it so essential to find meanings in the difficulties we face? Yes! It is essentially crucial. We can say that every new journey of life starts after the end of a dull night.

“Once someone asked me what are the jobs I enjoy? I was completely unable to answer. While some ideas came into my mind but so dull that I could not explain them with proper words or sentences. I was empty inside my mind, dull, and was uncertain that if I would ever come out of the trauma or not? That was the moment when I apprehended that I was detached from my feelings. I was somehow able to collect all those goals after I noticed that those mean a lot for me.” Said Jennifer K in her book named “…in Recovery.” 

She took it as a disorder to her physical and mental health. She considered it as a part of “hardship” and worked on it. These were her dark times. Now, she had to find a way to get rid of her dark time of post-traumatic growth, so she started discovering new and meaningful things to tackle post-traumatic growth. She converted little achievements into joys, and every pleasure meant to her. This was the recovery she mentions in her book every time. Today Jennifer explains her dark days and mentions her past 20 years as the stage of “healing” from “disorder.” but she still insists on saying that she is on the path of recovery until now. While explaining her feelings, she says, “myself, including my mind, soul, body and even my personality were rescued by the treatment, and that was the process of becoming new or the start of fresh.”

Further say says, “I was given yoga training to be a therapist for myself and those who were close to me. And watch how I am training you how to be your master of the core. I got meaning from those pains, and I am delighted with what I have become now.” 

BEING OPTIMISTIC: How Optimistic People Tackle Down Tragedies of Life?

After studying Jennifer’s life, we can say that hope is everything. We understand that hope comes after we are defeated or we fail. If we do not forget, we would never know what “hope” can be and can do to our future.  She is not the only person on the planet earth who feels that her difficulties became a success source. Now, she is a strong woman, a wife, a mother, and a successful professional. There are a lot of such stories I can mention here. To become a role model, you need to face hardships and post-traumatic growth with faith, and if you lose trust, you lose everything. 

So we can support the hypothesis “being optimistic in the days of post-traumatic growth and hardships means getting the key to success” So, hope for recovery and discover ways to heal yourself from any disorder you are facing as Jennifer did in her dark days.  Another advantage of being hopeful during the difficulty is growing imagination with growing good personal traits. Both “the personal traits and the difficulties” are directly proportional to each other. If problems increase, you can say that your personality gains good and ripened personal traits. So, always try to imagine positive things or outcomes from traumas and dark days.

In an article for Scientific American, investigator and psychologist Kasey Killiam explores how the stress of post-traumatic growth can contribute to self-improvement. “Tragedy reveals a human weakness in an uncertain environment and thus can lead everyone to feel very vulnerable or powerless. Although, ironically, it can sometimes increase self-esteem and make us think about ourselves as more capable. A car accident rescuer, for example, claimed that the experience inspired her to regain control of the situation with stronger resolve and stamina. People seem to feel inspired by the realization that they can conquer potential obstacles because they overcame a previous one.”

This is the reality that if we experience those issues or difficulties such as post-traumatic growth which we bore in our past, we always defeat the bad times. We handle post-traumatic growth more precisely if we have the know-how of managing issues. We can take down post-traumatic growth if they repeat and feel victorious against post-traumatic growth. Preparation is always considered the key to success. Take the example of a student who thinks that he knows everything because he studied a lot. He fails in a math examination because he was not prepared to write the correct mathematical formulas. This is because he did not report those problems by hand. After all, they felt that they know everything and did not bother to practice by hand.

To make your future safe from current trauma, you need to learn lessons and take them seriously. Not only the future the recent trauma can help you to be more optimistic in the present. A meaningful life can be earned only if you want to live meaningfully and have a great resolve for your future. So, wisdom can only be achieved after passing the experiment. The experiment is the hardship you faced. This experiment means a lot to you because you would discover new meanings to life and uncover new ideas to live life meaningfully. Trying anything different, or finally accomplishing something we have always desired to do will help us get out of depression and get rid of negative feelings. This can lead to the introduction of fresh people sharing our values. It’s much better to make connections when seeking professional advice or to work on a project alone.

RECOVERY: How post-traumatic growth Help During Recovery and After Recovery?

Author J. Rendon in his book that he wrote concerning the people who faced difficulties and found meanings in their lives says “in one of his quotations while interviewing militants who met the Stress Disorder which he named “PTSD (Post-Traumatic-Stress-Disorder) and other post-traumatic growth they met “People who met a trauma say that after running a lot from tragedy and traumas, they eventually got helped to become a new man and to become a better person. No one would ever consider a possible concussion to be a part of their life but experiencing and surviving from it and gaining recovery after the trauma realize that it changed their life absolutely. ” 

In an article in the New York Times, He further quoted, “when veteran militants discuss their post-traumatic growth in the past military life and how they recovered, they develop positive change in themselves. While telling their story, they try to create a perspective of the things related to the trauma.”  

Rendon told the publication about conversations he conducted and how they influenced his own perspective against post-traumatic growth when he spoke to individuals: “What an extraordinary human, I believe. Then I think of all the other people telling about similar experiences. This sort of miraculous reversal isn’t uncommon, it turns out. Many people have the capacity for such really go.”

R. Tedeschi and L. Calhoun developed the concept of PTG(Post-Traumatic-Growth). They were Psychologists at the University of N. Carolina when they experimented with the idea. They interviewed those people who survived after severe injuries. The next step they took was questioning those people who lost their spouses in the recent past. So, what they find, they are categorized into five categories.

They Found the Five Categories of Recovery from Post-Traumatic Growth:

  1. New Taste for Life
  2. Discovering New Opportunities
  3. Feeling Added Strength in their Physical and Mental Body
  4. Improvement in Relationships 
  5. Increased Spiritual Satisfaction

Many of them tick the answer of “Increased Spiritual Satisfaction” because they felt more satisfied with their beliefs and more supported religion.  They all came to the conclusion that artistic reflection, such as in art or journal writing, can help with “intentional rumination,” or worrying about how the tragedy of post-traumatic growth has altered one’s life course.

So, now we know the importance of facing post-traumatic growth in our early life. We need to meet and handle post-traumatic growth in our early lives because we may take upcoming difficulties with the utmost resolve and have faith in success against post-traumatic growth.